Pre-Marital Sex, Yes or No?

This post has been written for a contest organized by https://www.indiblogger.in with Poonaam Uppal asking us a question - "YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex"

To begin with an answer I say YES to the Pre-Marital Sex, and I am married so don't think I am being greedy by saying yes to Pre-Marital Sex.

Now to provide the explanation behind my answer. Sex or Making Love is the culmination or destination of all relationships. The problem is with our thinking which has distorted and portrayed a beautiful thing like sex as a hideous monster. Almost everyone in our BIG country is afraid to talk about sex, why?

Sex makes us uncomfortable no scratch that sex doesn't make us uncomfortable it's talking about sex that makes us uncomfortable. Of course we all love sex, our population is proof to that. There should be more discussions on sex so that we as a society can be comfortable talking about sex or discussing our problems related to sex. We should not be shy about asking for condoms at the medical shop. 

I am in support of Pre-Marital Sex because it's a personal matter between two people who are in love and we have no right to comment about anybody's personal life. If two people love each other and trust each other then there is no reason why can't they have sex provided they use protection that's where proper sex education comes in picture. 

Like most of the important educations either our schools skip it or we skip it. There are very few trained drivers on our roads because most of us learn driving from our elder brothers or friends. Same thing is with the sex, since we have no proper sex education, people seek alternate channels to know more about it and then it takes them through seedy paths forming a negative or unnatural picture about the whole process.

I am in favour of Pre-Marital Sex because it's a debate mostly because if people have Pre-Marital Sex and they don't get married then the girl will no longer be a virgin, what a shame? Actually this entire concept of virginity is so contrived because all around the world only girls are expected to be virgins but no one puts that responsibility for boys. If sexual relations are alright for boys before wedding then same should be allowed for girls too. 

Why Pre-Marital Sex is big thing now because we as a species are highly sexual and as early as 70-80 years ago the average age of marriage in our country was under 18 which is now in late 20s. Now people are geared more towards affairs and relationships before they get married. And if two responsible adults have a relationship then what they do in that relationship is their business and nobody else's.

So I would like to stop here saying once again that I support and say YES to Pre-Marital Sex because as per me this is are not wrong just use protection kids.

This post has been written for a contest organized by https://www.indiblogger.in with Poonaam Uppal asking us a question - "YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex"

The Dream Library

As a reader I like nothing more than to read and to buy books and magazines. I just love the sight of my books placed neatly in their book cases waiting to be read or re-read. This week's Indi-spire topic allowed me to turn my mind up to 11 to dream up my perfect library.

I just love the smell of books be it new or old. But along with the physical books I also love the    e-books for the convenience they provide. I would ensure that both the areas are equally catered. I am pretty possessive about my books but that would not be the case with my library as people would be welcomed to enjoy the works of masters.

I would have rows and rows of book cases which would have all the books I could find and then some more. Books would be arranged by authors. The building itself would be at least 10 stories high. I have learned one thing after buying so many books and reading them that there are far more books than I can hope to read in my lifetime. But I would still love to have all the books I could manage to have. If only to preserve them.

On each floor there would be multiple reading nooks, reading spots by the window with the wonderful view outside the windows as many windows would have a different view set for them. Meaning I would have different style of garden set outside of window so that I or the reader could enjoy the view while reading. There would also be different type e-readers available on multiple locations on all the floors so that people can read.

There would be tablets and computers available on all the floors so assist people and me to search for the book I want and also to go online.

Now coming to the building, my library's every floor would be decorated differently. Each floor would have enough natural light to ensure that I am able to look for the books and read them without using too much electricity.

I could go on and on about my dream library but let's keep it short and stop my thoughts here itself. See you all in my library when the dream becomes a reality.

This post was written for Indi-Spire initiative by indiblogger.in

Topic - What would your dream library look like? #DreamLibrary

Smelly Encounters

This post has been written for the contest organized by Racold and Indiblogger.in

As soon as i saw this contest, my mind took me back among 400 students all sitting in a single room studying for PET (Pre Engineering Test) or IIT.

You can very well imagine the situation where in you pack 400 kids together in a room at 6 AM in the mornings.

Seating for Boys and Girls were obviously separate and how fatal was that for me.

One fine sleepy morning I found myself sitting in the class trying to focus on the topic been taught between the bouts of sleep.

And then I had that Smelly Encounter which scarred me for life and I found myself gagging due that reeking body odour and I uttered "What's that Smell, Boss?"  

Everyone looked towards me and I looked towards the floor willing to go through it.

Well after few minutes the class continued but my nose was gone for the week. I had no choice then to lean forward a bit and whisper in the ear of the smelly guy in front of me.

"Boss, try to bath once in a while. I hear there are some very good water heaters available in the market." I then I fell silent trying to kill the smell in my mind.

But that particular day was ruined to the core.

It was that day 16 years ago and its now and I still sniff around the room if I am gonna sit among lot of people after all some 'Smelly Encounters' are very hard to forget.

This post has been written for the contest organized by Racold and Indiblogger.in

Winner takes it all

It was another lazy sunday morning and the entire family was spread in front of the TV waiting for the snacks to arrive.

India was again playing Sri Lanka as we watch all cricket matches especially India's so the match was on.

"Papa why is that we play Sri Lanka so often?" Asked my son

I had no easy answer for this question may be it had to do with the International Cricket schedule or it was all about money.

"Beta, the schedule is made such." That's all I could manage.

"What's the point of winning if you win against just one opponent?" pat came another question

"Winning is winning, but I suppose you are right too." This was getting exciting

"Why is winning so important?" I love my son

"Because beta, we have conditioned ourselves to recognize the winners and forget the losers." I said

"Huh?" Of course my son is still a kid

"See, beta, Winner takes it all." I was bracing for another question

"Sixer, wow what a shot." My son was again lost in the match as another six went past the boundary

But now I was lost in my thoughts

It was actually true that we care only about the winners. 

Achievements of losers don't matter to us anymore.  

After all its true Winner Takes it all.

This post is written by me for contest organized by India Today and indiblogger.in

Winning - The Way of Life

What does winning mean to you? ask someone that question who has never won. But that is simply not true as we are born when one sperm wins the race to reach the ovaries, so the life begins with a win. Then you win by actually being born in the world.

So to say that someone has never won is simply not true.

But it is something different when you experience the win yourself. Winning is passing an exam, winning is winning a race or a match, winning is success. 

After All its only by winning small battles you win an actual war.

And its not empty words too, you study to pass exams. You prepare to get through the interviews. Then you get to be the lucky one to get that coveted job. So, see how you won those small battles all those years to win a big war finally making you feel successful.

We all know that no. of successful people is way less than the people who didn't make it. So being successful is being a winner. And that is what India Today Conclave 2014 is all about, its a celebration of winners and all about winning. 

Its not about showing people down who don't feel like winners but a platform to encourage people to understand and identify the winner inside of us all so that everyone can be a winner in their own way. After all not everyone can be an actor, musician or writer. But There is enough space and opportunity for people to do their own work and be successful in their own right.

For me winning is everything and is nothing. Don't get me wrong I do love winning, I am a human after all. But winning is not all supreme to me. I would never take a wrong way to win, I would never cheat to win a match or to get a job. I love winning but I know that the inner satisfaction I get by winning with my own hard work is supreme and I can never get that feeling if I win by wrongdoing. 

Winning is Power. Winning is Success. Winning is Life. Winning is Satisfaction but winning is only satisfaction if its bring you Inner Peace.


This post has been written for the contest organized by India Today Conclave 2014 and indiblogger.in 

Indian Traffic - Ki Condition Serious Hai

There are so many things in India jinki Condition serious hai but nothing can beat our own Indian traffic. How can one define Indian traffic, how else other than by this simple photo.

Credit - E9fun.com

That photo is so funny because its true. Just look at the photo below

Credit - Rediff.com

And you never know when you would meet an animal on the roads from Dogs, Pigs, Cows and even to rare sights in a city like camels and even Elephants. And they just keep on walking rest of the people have to find their own way as might know Elephants don't believe in giving sides.

Credit - Rediff.com

And when there are no animals which is never the case then your way may be blocked by some celebration - march of a party or mostly by a wedding.

Credit - http://enjoyingindia.com

When some foreigner comes to India beside our natural beauty and religion they are most enamoured by our Traffic and they unanimously agree that Iski to Condition serious hai.

May be we can give all a Cadbury 5 Star to cure this Serious Condition. After all it's a known cure to treat all kind of Seriousness.

This post has been written for #ConditionSeriousHai "Condition Serious Hai!" contest organized by Cadbury 5 Star and Indiblogger.in